Friday, July 17, 2009

Indian finds Saudi father after 27 years

DREAM COME TRUE:
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ALKHOBAR: Twenty-eight-year-old Indian national Ahmed Fahhad Mohammad Al-Hajri's story is stranger than fiction. It is a story that film directors in India would die for. It is straight out of Bollywood.

Born to a Saudi father and an Indian mother in Mumbai in 1981, Ahmed Al-Hajri has spent most of his life trying to track down his father. His father, Fahhad Mohammad Faleh Al-Hajri, was suffering from acute spinal pain in the early 1980s when he headed to Mumbai for an operation. One of his friends accompanied him to India. The treatment was to be long and hard. The two Saudis decided to marry in India.

They went about it in a legal and Islamic way. Thirty-eight-year-old Fahhad married Salma Khan. The marriage took place in 1980 with the consent of Salma's father, Khair Mohammad Khan, who originally hailed from Swat Valley before the partition of India in 1947.
The marriage was solemnized by Qazi Abdul Jabbar Khan of Bhendi Bazar and it was duly registered. Al-Hajri stayed in Mumbai for some months and then left for Saudi Arabia never to return.

A few months later, Salma was blessed with a baby boy. She awaited her husband's return. Days turned to months and months to years. There was no way to contact Fahhad. To make matters worse for Salma, the address that Fahhad mentioned in the marriage contract was sketchy at best.

Angered by the helplessness and desperate situation of his dear daughter, Salma's father approached the Saudi Consulate and filed a written complaint against Fahhad.

"If he is not going to come back, fine; he should at least give her a divorce so that they could close the chapter," he wrote in his complaint addressed to the Saudi consul general. Nothing came of it.

There was no word from and no trace of Fahhad. Salma kept hoping against hope that he would turn up one day to surprise her and their son. That never happened. In between, Fahhad's friend, who had accompanied him to Mumbai on the first trip and who had also married another Indian woman at the time, visited India and learned about Fahhad's Indian wife giving birth to a "handsome" baby boy. He also was told by acquaintances that Salma had named Fahhad's son Ahmed. The friend did inform Fahhad about the birth of a son.

In any case, Fahhad never returned to India. He told Arab News that he did however try to locate Salma through his employees who visited India every year. He said they never succeeded because Salma had married another man and was no longer at the location Fahhad knew.
When Salma's father realized the futility of waiting endlessly for Fahhad to return, he went to Qazi Abdul Jabbar Khan. In accordance with the Islamic principles, the marriage was annulled. The husband was reported as missing. Salma's father arranged a marriage for her to another man with whom she now leads a comfortable and happy life in Mumbai. She has had more children, and she has basically turned a new leaf in her life after the turbulent 1980s.

Things weren't that easy for the son, however. He would constantly badger his mother with questions about his father. "Who is he? Where is he? Why did he leave us?" he would ask her day and night. His mother would narrate the whole story to him, night after night. "What does he look like?" Ahmed continued to ask, and eventually his mother produced a grainy black-and-white photograph of his parents, which was taken the day after their marriage.

"It is a picture of happiness, and in those impressionistic days it was my lifeline. It held the key to my existence. In that photograph, my father is on the right, and he is looking at my mother, who is smiling. There is just a side view of my father. That photograph was the only tangible thing I had that linked me to my Saudi father," Ahmed told Arab News on the phone from Bisha on Wednesday. "That photograph would eventually help me to connect the missing link in my life."

Ahmed's mother ensured he got a good education. "I did my schooling in Mumbai, and then mother sent me to Lucknow for graduate studies," Ahmed said, "but more than education my heart and mind were set on only one thing - to locate my father. I promised myself to go to any corner of the globe to find him. However, since my mother wanted me to complete my education I did it, and the day I graduated I came back to Mumbai, applied for a passport and started knocking the doors of various travel agents who would recruit people for various jobs in Saudi Arabia."

As luck would have it, it did not take long for Ahmed to get a job offer. "The travel agent said there was a Saudi employer looking for educated Indians for his companies in Saudi Arabia. That was how I was introduced to my sponsor, Khaled Al-Mutairi. 'What can you do?' he asked me at the travel agent's office in Mumbai. 'Anything,' I told him, and immediately explained the real reason for my desperate interest in coming to Saudi Arabia. He was moved by my story."
Al-Mutairi sent a visa for Ahmed as soon as he got back to Saudi Arabia.

"I landed in Dammam in 2003 for a monthly salary of SR500. I was armed with that black-and-white photograph and the marriage certificate and the copy of the complaint that my maternal grandfather had lodged against my father at the Saudi Consulate in Mumbai," said Ahmed. "I thought it would be very easy to locate him. It dawned on me very late that there were hundreds if not thousands of Al-Hajris in Saudi Arabia and that they are spread across the length and breadth of this vast Kingdom."

Ahmed worked in one of Al-Mutairi's hotels. Coincidentally, the firm that supplied ice to the hotel was named Al-Hajri Ice Factory.

"I was delighted and thought the ice-factory owner might turn out to be my father, and if not he would certainly have some clue to my father's whereabouts. I promptly produced the photograph for the ice-factory owner. He didn't recognize anybody in it. It was not he."

After a few more attempts, it dawned upon him the task was not easy. Four years passed, and he was soon losing hope when a friend of his suggested that he take recourse to putting an advertisement in Arabic newspapers. "I did just that," he said. "Not a soul responded."

A little later, Ahmed befriended a Passport Department official who would frequent their hotel. "Once again, it rekindled my hope. In the complaint that my maternal grandfather lodged with the Saudi Consulate in Mumbai, there was a mention of my father's passport number. Surely that should reveal all the contact details of my father," thought Ahmed. A few days later his friend came back without good news. "He said there were no records for that number. It seems Saudis get a new passport number every five years. Those were not the days of the computer when everything would be centralized and all data available at the click of a mouse. The old records were not there, or maybe they were there - but not in the Dammam passport office."

In a last-ditch effort, a Keralite friend suggested that he report the story in a local newspaper read by Keralites. "I never thought it would succeed, but my Keralite friend said since Keralites have a huge network spread far and wide across the Kingdom they would certainly know the Al-Hajri he was looking for. My report was published in a local Malayalam newspaper. One of the Keralites in Riyadh read it and held his head in his hands after reading it. 'Mushkila, mushkila,' he muttered. 'What mushkila?' asked his sponsor. He narrated the whole story to his sponsor and showed the picture that accompanied the article. One look and the Saudi sponsor said, 'Oh this is Fahhad Al-Hajri from Bisha.' He immediately called my father and explained everything. My father was in Riyadh at the time. He promptly sent my brother to find out all my details. When my stepbrother turned up that night at the hotel in Dammam, my heart was pounding. It was a bittersweet feeling. I was the happiest man on earth. I was about to fulfill my lifelong quest. The dots that could never be connected were about to be connected. My life was about to be complete."

Ahmed's voice chokes as he narrates the details of that night. "My father basically asked me three questions. What is your name? What is your mother's name? And what was your grandfather's name? I told him everything - the name of the person who had solemnized the marriage and the area in Mumbai where the marriage took place. My father asked me to pass on the cell phone to my stepbrother and told him, 'Yes, this is my son. He is your brother; bring him home.'"

Ahmed said he relaxed. "My job was done. Now, I was curious to see how my father looked. I thought of pestering him with many, many questions that were swirling in my mind. 'Why did he abandon us? What were the reasons? What made him do so?' There were a million things on my mind. The next morning, my brother approached my sponsor, Al-Mutairi. He readily agreed to release me. He was happy for me. 'Mabrook,' he told me. 'Anta Saudi; maafi Hindi,' he said as he bid me an emotional adieu. I then met my father. That was the most beautiful moment in my life." It was what Ahmed Fahhad Mohammad Al-Hajri so long had hoped for.

"One look at him, and all my anger dissipated in one second," he said. "I no longer had any questions. One hug from him, and it was like Paradise. He apologized for his mistake and said there were things that were beyond him. He insisted that he did try to locate Ahmed and his mother through common friends but didn't succeed. That night my father threw a grand party in Riyadh for his near and dear ones."

Ahmed then accompanied his father and brother to Bisha. "There my father threw another party. There was a big celebration. In the meantime, I informed my anxious mother about my father's discovery. She was very happy for me. My father apologized to her, as well. And as they say 'all's well that ends well.' My father now proudly introduces me to all his friends as his long-lost son from India."

Having realized his fondest dream, Ahmed is now with his father in Bisha. He still has an Indian passport. The Al-Hajris have approached the Ministry of the Interior to process Ahmed's Saudi citizenship papers. "It will take some time ... there are too many bureaucratic procedures to be completed," Ahmed says.

In the meantime, his stepbrothers, stepmother and stepsisters treat him like a prince. "They pamper me a lot," the soon-to-be Saudi said. "My father is 68 years old now and is retired, but his stepbrothers are well settled running their own businesses. I have picked up a smattering of Arabic. Conversation is no longer a problem. Acceptance in the family was the most important thing, and that happened very smoothly." The only thing that Ahmed misses other than his mother is the spicy Indian food. "Arabic food is bland; I need spicy Indian stuff," Ahmed said. "I am getting used to the Saudi food now."
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Ahmed Al-Hajri in Saudi
Arab News
The Middle East's Leading English Daily News

Monday, July 13, 2009

Why people fail to accomplish their goals?

Well, the first reason I would like to share with you that makes our goals fail is that we don’t have a clear enough plan of what we really want in life or to where we want to go. Without the plan, how can we possibly know when we get there? By having a clear plan we can have more conviction about where we are at present. Always remember that a well written plan is must for any success in our life.

The second reason is that, we fail to take action in order to get somewhere. Many of us wonder why our life doesn’t go the way we want it. The thing is that we often don’t know what action to take and we are not being honest with ourselves. The best idea in the universe will not take us anywhere without our action.

The final reason is most of us give up just before we are about to accomplish our goals. We let discouragement and obstacles become barriers, rather than using them as launching pads for the next approach. What if our last discouragement is the key to getting what we want? How important is this goal to us? If it is a “must” we can’t give it up. That doesn’t mean us beat our head against the wall doing the same thing over and over again but it also means us find another approach.

No one wants to fail in life. we all would like strive to be the best we can be. So you know now, why is it that some people seemingly fail over and over again. Let’s avoid the pain of failure and plan goal first, take action and never give up…

I wish you good luck to lead yourself to the road to success.

Thank you for reading.

Friday, July 10, 2009

Secret To Your Success!

Good Day!

I would like to share an awesome video from my favorite incredible coach Bob Proctor, it could help you to achieve massive success... no matter what you do, where you live, your current financial condition, what your education level is, or who you want to become!

I wish you good Luck!

Tuesday, April 28, 2009

How to plan for achieve success

Most of my friends tell that they are not happy with their lives but they never want to try anything to change their lives. They just live their life day by day with no direction and go wherever life takes them. When you don’t plan to be successful, you will not recognize opportunities. It’s easy to blame your circumstances but you should look for ways and plan to become a successful person.

The very first thing is that you need to know what it is that you want out of your life. Go somewhere alone that is quite, spend sometimes and ask yourself that what do you really want in your life? You will need to write your answers down in detail. When you have a list of things that you want to accomplish prioritize your list and then give it a dead line of your list that you would like to accomplish. You will have some obstacles in your way to succeed but don’t allow yourself to give it up.

People who succeed at anything in life have usually planned for it first. Plan for your success first then believe that you will be successful and then visualize yourself being successful, act like you are successful. They say “Fake it until you make it” it will help you to shape your own future which would be full of successes.

All you have to do is believe, be ready to receive, open your mind and heart, and start thinking as though you were already successful that would condition your mind to find more opportunities and increase more successes.

Thank you for reading and I wish you good luck with your plan

Wednesday, March 25, 2009

3 Kays of how to live (Which one is bigger?)

Good Day,

That’s really cool, you’ve got to see it to believe it, learn the 3 keys of how to live abundantly in your finances, health and relationship.

There’s this one part with the card trick that really blew my mind. You’ll see what I mean.

Click on bellow link and enjoy it…


http://www.LawToSuccess.net/blog/?name=Arina&cbid=karinakro&tid=

I wish you a beautiful Wednesday…

Monday, March 23, 2009

Be in Joy now and everything will change

In the moment that I discovered The Secret I realized that I had been living my entire life backwards. If things were good in my life, I was happy. If things were difficult in my life and everything was going wrong, I was stressed and miserable. In my ignorance, I had been misusing the law of attraction all of my life. But all of that changed when I had the knowledge of The Secret.

To live in accordance with The Secret and the most powerful law in the Universe, we must be in Joy first - and then everything will change. To live our lives by emotionally reacting to what is happening outside of us is misusing the law! As we react with negative emotion to any difficulties, we attract more negativity into our lives. We cannot defy the law of attraction, which operates on the most microscopic levels of vibration, and with absolute exactitude.

You must be in Joy first. And then your life will change into Joy.

Difficult times are the greatest opportunities in disguise. When we face difficult times we have to put in determined work to get ourselves into Joy. But let me tell you, when you can get yourself into Joy despite what is happening around you, your life must change - it's the law!

In addition, as you become Joy in difficult times you are becoming the master of your emotions, the master of your life, and the master of the law of attraction. Difficult times are your greatest opportunity to practice yourself into Joy.

Of course if your life is going along swimmingly then it is very easy to be in Joy. During those times your Joy is most likely a reaction to the good times. But the magnificence and the power that you really have within you will be seen when you can be in Joy during difficult times. It is then that you will see the true power that you have within you, because as you hold to Joy, you will shift all the energies of the Universe, and your life and your world will change.

The cause of everything is within you, and the effect is what you experience in your life. You have the power within you to change everything by putting yourself in Joy. You can change everything so easily by becoming Joy first! And nothing can change until you get yourself in Joy, because that is the law of attraction. Like attracts like! The energy of Joy attracts energy of Joy!

Do whatever it takes to find your Joy, and then keep yourself in it no matter what. Keep ramping up your level of Joy every day. There is no limit to the levels of Joy you can reach. You will see change to the degree of Joy that you can attain and maintain. The higher the Joy you can create within you, the more spectacular the change, and the higher the Joy, the faster the change. Once you get yourself in Joy it is easy to maintain it, because your emanation of Joy attracts more Joy. The law of attraction will continually send you more feelings of Joy.

You cannot criticize or blame or complain when you are in Joy. You cannot be afraid when you are in Joy. You cannot speak negatively when you are in Joy. You cannot harm another when you are in Joy. Negativity cannot reach you when you are in Joy.

When you are in Joy you are compassionate. When you are in Joy you are considerate and caring. When you are in Joy you love others. When you are in Joy you appreciate everything. When you are in Joy you are in love with the world, and the Universe is in love with you.

Be in Joy. Seek it with all of your heart, and you will find it.

May the Joy be with you,

Rhonda Byrne
Creator of The Secret

Nothing is impossible

When someone tells you that you can't do something...


Look around...


Consider all options...
Then GO for it!


Use all the things God gave you!


Be creative!


In the end, you will succeed and prove them wrong!

Always remember

"Nothing is impossible, if your heart is willing"
Get rid of the word impossible from your dictionary and you will succeed.

Saturday, July 26, 2008

Experience the true happiness

Are you looking for happiness? Well, the reality is if you are looking for happiness out there you will never find it because happiness doesn’t come without, it's here within you. If you ask anyone to describe the feeling as happiness, I believe he or she will says that is a feeling of pleasure. There is a connection between these kinds of feelings. Pleasure is more dependent on the five senses while happiness is independent of them.

Pleasure is a good feeling that comes from eating good food, enjoying a party etc. Pleasure has to do with enjoyment though the five senses. For an example, a person may smokes cigarettes because it gives him pleasure, yet, this doesn’t make him happier, especially if he acknowledges the fact that it is not good for his health.

Every one of us has our own definition of ‘happiness’. Happiness for a beggar may mean a lot of money. Happiness for a business man may mean success. So, how do we become happy? Well, you don’t have to have the best things in this world to just to be happy. It’s all about doing and making the best out of every single thing. When you find yourself smiling at your own mistake, tell yourself that, Oh, I will do better next time. You possess a willingness to stand up again and try- that will make you feel a happy person.

Life does not have to be perfect for you to be a happy and the key to happiness is already within yourself. You don’t need to wait for happiness to come, if you can convince yourself to stay relaxed and calm in every situation, and activities such as learning to concentrate and control the mind, developing your self discipline, and residing spiritual literature, you will experience the true happiness in your life because those are the gate.

Now, it is up to you to decide and it is your own decision to choose to be happy.

I wish you good luck with your happiness and thank you for reading

Friday, July 4, 2008

The key to success

The key to success is preparation. Do you know what does it mean to be prepared?

Preparation extended beyond having a pencil and paper, but meant that you must have a plan and more importantly be committed to that plan. But most of us do not have a plan. Unfortunately, more value is placed in the everyday written grocery list, than a personal success action plan.

Preparation means that you must also have the necessary attitudes supported by those underlying beliefs if you truly wish to master success. Do you think something like: "Oh, no, I need to sit down and work on this or that?" If you thought positively about the planning time such as "Great, I can see how I can get this done faster and better than the last time," would the outcome be different?

If we could get everything we needed out of a book? It seems that books have become the magic pill for success. Read this and master success. Oh, if life was only that easy. Yet supporting most of these success strategies is something related to preparation. Whether it is goal setting, time management, decision making or any of those other self leadership skills, preparation is one of the most essential keys to success.

So, if you want to unlock the door to success, using the preparation as the key to success, then take the time to determine the following:

· Do you have a written plan for life success?
· Do you have the right attitudes?
· Do you have the right professional development and training?
· Do you have the clarity of purpose and vision?

If you desire success, that means you must answer “Yes” to all of those questions.

Thank you for reading and I wish you every success in life.

 
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