Friday, July 17, 2009

Indian finds Saudi father after 27 years

DREAM COME TRUE:
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ALKHOBAR: Twenty-eight-year-old Indian national Ahmed Fahhad Mohammad Al-Hajri's story is stranger than fiction. It is a story that film directors in India would die for. It is straight out of Bollywood.

Born to a Saudi father and an Indian mother in Mumbai in 1981, Ahmed Al-Hajri has spent most of his life trying to track down his father. His father, Fahhad Mohammad Faleh Al-Hajri, was suffering from acute spinal pain in the early 1980s when he headed to Mumbai for an operation. One of his friends accompanied him to India. The treatment was to be long and hard. The two Saudis decided to marry in India.

They went about it in a legal and Islamic way. Thirty-eight-year-old Fahhad married Salma Khan. The marriage took place in 1980 with the consent of Salma's father, Khair Mohammad Khan, who originally hailed from Swat Valley before the partition of India in 1947.
The marriage was solemnized by Qazi Abdul Jabbar Khan of Bhendi Bazar and it was duly registered. Al-Hajri stayed in Mumbai for some months and then left for Saudi Arabia never to return.

A few months later, Salma was blessed with a baby boy. She awaited her husband's return. Days turned to months and months to years. There was no way to contact Fahhad. To make matters worse for Salma, the address that Fahhad mentioned in the marriage contract was sketchy at best.

Angered by the helplessness and desperate situation of his dear daughter, Salma's father approached the Saudi Consulate and filed a written complaint against Fahhad.

"If he is not going to come back, fine; he should at least give her a divorce so that they could close the chapter," he wrote in his complaint addressed to the Saudi consul general. Nothing came of it.

There was no word from and no trace of Fahhad. Salma kept hoping against hope that he would turn up one day to surprise her and their son. That never happened. In between, Fahhad's friend, who had accompanied him to Mumbai on the first trip and who had also married another Indian woman at the time, visited India and learned about Fahhad's Indian wife giving birth to a "handsome" baby boy. He also was told by acquaintances that Salma had named Fahhad's son Ahmed. The friend did inform Fahhad about the birth of a son.

In any case, Fahhad never returned to India. He told Arab News that he did however try to locate Salma through his employees who visited India every year. He said they never succeeded because Salma had married another man and was no longer at the location Fahhad knew.
When Salma's father realized the futility of waiting endlessly for Fahhad to return, he went to Qazi Abdul Jabbar Khan. In accordance with the Islamic principles, the marriage was annulled. The husband was reported as missing. Salma's father arranged a marriage for her to another man with whom she now leads a comfortable and happy life in Mumbai. She has had more children, and she has basically turned a new leaf in her life after the turbulent 1980s.

Things weren't that easy for the son, however. He would constantly badger his mother with questions about his father. "Who is he? Where is he? Why did he leave us?" he would ask her day and night. His mother would narrate the whole story to him, night after night. "What does he look like?" Ahmed continued to ask, and eventually his mother produced a grainy black-and-white photograph of his parents, which was taken the day after their marriage.

"It is a picture of happiness, and in those impressionistic days it was my lifeline. It held the key to my existence. In that photograph, my father is on the right, and he is looking at my mother, who is smiling. There is just a side view of my father. That photograph was the only tangible thing I had that linked me to my Saudi father," Ahmed told Arab News on the phone from Bisha on Wednesday. "That photograph would eventually help me to connect the missing link in my life."

Ahmed's mother ensured he got a good education. "I did my schooling in Mumbai, and then mother sent me to Lucknow for graduate studies," Ahmed said, "but more than education my heart and mind were set on only one thing - to locate my father. I promised myself to go to any corner of the globe to find him. However, since my mother wanted me to complete my education I did it, and the day I graduated I came back to Mumbai, applied for a passport and started knocking the doors of various travel agents who would recruit people for various jobs in Saudi Arabia."

As luck would have it, it did not take long for Ahmed to get a job offer. "The travel agent said there was a Saudi employer looking for educated Indians for his companies in Saudi Arabia. That was how I was introduced to my sponsor, Khaled Al-Mutairi. 'What can you do?' he asked me at the travel agent's office in Mumbai. 'Anything,' I told him, and immediately explained the real reason for my desperate interest in coming to Saudi Arabia. He was moved by my story."
Al-Mutairi sent a visa for Ahmed as soon as he got back to Saudi Arabia.

"I landed in Dammam in 2003 for a monthly salary of SR500. I was armed with that black-and-white photograph and the marriage certificate and the copy of the complaint that my maternal grandfather had lodged against my father at the Saudi Consulate in Mumbai," said Ahmed. "I thought it would be very easy to locate him. It dawned on me very late that there were hundreds if not thousands of Al-Hajris in Saudi Arabia and that they are spread across the length and breadth of this vast Kingdom."

Ahmed worked in one of Al-Mutairi's hotels. Coincidentally, the firm that supplied ice to the hotel was named Al-Hajri Ice Factory.

"I was delighted and thought the ice-factory owner might turn out to be my father, and if not he would certainly have some clue to my father's whereabouts. I promptly produced the photograph for the ice-factory owner. He didn't recognize anybody in it. It was not he."

After a few more attempts, it dawned upon him the task was not easy. Four years passed, and he was soon losing hope when a friend of his suggested that he take recourse to putting an advertisement in Arabic newspapers. "I did just that," he said. "Not a soul responded."

A little later, Ahmed befriended a Passport Department official who would frequent their hotel. "Once again, it rekindled my hope. In the complaint that my maternal grandfather lodged with the Saudi Consulate in Mumbai, there was a mention of my father's passport number. Surely that should reveal all the contact details of my father," thought Ahmed. A few days later his friend came back without good news. "He said there were no records for that number. It seems Saudis get a new passport number every five years. Those were not the days of the computer when everything would be centralized and all data available at the click of a mouse. The old records were not there, or maybe they were there - but not in the Dammam passport office."

In a last-ditch effort, a Keralite friend suggested that he report the story in a local newspaper read by Keralites. "I never thought it would succeed, but my Keralite friend said since Keralites have a huge network spread far and wide across the Kingdom they would certainly know the Al-Hajri he was looking for. My report was published in a local Malayalam newspaper. One of the Keralites in Riyadh read it and held his head in his hands after reading it. 'Mushkila, mushkila,' he muttered. 'What mushkila?' asked his sponsor. He narrated the whole story to his sponsor and showed the picture that accompanied the article. One look and the Saudi sponsor said, 'Oh this is Fahhad Al-Hajri from Bisha.' He immediately called my father and explained everything. My father was in Riyadh at the time. He promptly sent my brother to find out all my details. When my stepbrother turned up that night at the hotel in Dammam, my heart was pounding. It was a bittersweet feeling. I was the happiest man on earth. I was about to fulfill my lifelong quest. The dots that could never be connected were about to be connected. My life was about to be complete."

Ahmed's voice chokes as he narrates the details of that night. "My father basically asked me three questions. What is your name? What is your mother's name? And what was your grandfather's name? I told him everything - the name of the person who had solemnized the marriage and the area in Mumbai where the marriage took place. My father asked me to pass on the cell phone to my stepbrother and told him, 'Yes, this is my son. He is your brother; bring him home.'"

Ahmed said he relaxed. "My job was done. Now, I was curious to see how my father looked. I thought of pestering him with many, many questions that were swirling in my mind. 'Why did he abandon us? What were the reasons? What made him do so?' There were a million things on my mind. The next morning, my brother approached my sponsor, Al-Mutairi. He readily agreed to release me. He was happy for me. 'Mabrook,' he told me. 'Anta Saudi; maafi Hindi,' he said as he bid me an emotional adieu. I then met my father. That was the most beautiful moment in my life." It was what Ahmed Fahhad Mohammad Al-Hajri so long had hoped for.

"One look at him, and all my anger dissipated in one second," he said. "I no longer had any questions. One hug from him, and it was like Paradise. He apologized for his mistake and said there were things that were beyond him. He insisted that he did try to locate Ahmed and his mother through common friends but didn't succeed. That night my father threw a grand party in Riyadh for his near and dear ones."

Ahmed then accompanied his father and brother to Bisha. "There my father threw another party. There was a big celebration. In the meantime, I informed my anxious mother about my father's discovery. She was very happy for me. My father apologized to her, as well. And as they say 'all's well that ends well.' My father now proudly introduces me to all his friends as his long-lost son from India."

Having realized his fondest dream, Ahmed is now with his father in Bisha. He still has an Indian passport. The Al-Hajris have approached the Ministry of the Interior to process Ahmed's Saudi citizenship papers. "It will take some time ... there are too many bureaucratic procedures to be completed," Ahmed says.

In the meantime, his stepbrothers, stepmother and stepsisters treat him like a prince. "They pamper me a lot," the soon-to-be Saudi said. "My father is 68 years old now and is retired, but his stepbrothers are well settled running their own businesses. I have picked up a smattering of Arabic. Conversation is no longer a problem. Acceptance in the family was the most important thing, and that happened very smoothly." The only thing that Ahmed misses other than his mother is the spicy Indian food. "Arabic food is bland; I need spicy Indian stuff," Ahmed said. "I am getting used to the Saudi food now."
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Ahmed Al-Hajri in Saudi
Arab News
The Middle East's Leading English Daily News

Sunday, June 28, 2009

An old Father and his Son

An 80 year old man was sitting on the sofa in his house along with his 45 years old highly educated son.

Suddenly a crow perched on their window.

The Father asked his Son, "What is it?"

The Son replied "It is a crow".

After a few minutes, the Father asked his Son the 2nd time, "What is it?"

The Son said "Father, I have just now told you "It's a crow".

After a little while, the old Father again asked his Son the 3rd time, what is it?"

At this time some ex-pression of irritation was felt in the Son's tone when he said to his Father with a rebuff.

"It's a crow, a crow".

A little after, the Father again asked his Son the 4th time, "What is it?"

This time the Son shouted at his Father, "Why do you keep asking me the same question again and again, although I have told you so many times 'IT IS A CROW'. Are you not able to understand this?"

A little later the Father went to his room and came back with an old tattered diary, which he had maintained since his Son was born. On opening a page, he asked his Son to read that page. When the son read it, the following words were written in the diary :-

"Today my little son aged three was sitting with me on the sofa, when a crow was sitting on the window. My Son asked me 23 times what it was, and I replied to him all 23 times that it was a Crow. I hugged him lovingly each time h e asked me the same question again and again for 23 times. I did not at all feel irritated I rather felt affection for my innocent child".

While the little child asked him 23 times "What is It", the Father had felt no irritation in replying to the same question all 23 times and when today the Father asked his Son the same question just 4 times, the Son felt irritated and annoyed.

So..,

If your parents attain old age, do not repulse them or look at them as a burden, but speak to them a gracious word, be cool, obedient, humble and kind to them. Be considerate to your parents. From today say this aloud, "I want to see my parents happy forever. They have cared for me ever since I was a little child. They have always showered their selfless love on me. They crossed all mountains and valleys without seeing the storm and heat to make me a person presentable in the society today".

Say a prayer to God, "I will serve my old parents in the BEST way. I will say all good and kind words to my dear parents, no matter how they behave.

Thanks you for reading...

Author: Unknown

Tuesday, June 9, 2009

Can I Borrow 25$?

A woman came home from work late, tired and irritated, to find her 5-year old son waiting for her at the door.
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SON: 'Mummy, may I ask you a question?'
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MUM: 'Yeah sure, what it is?' replied the woman.
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SON: 'Mummy, how much do you make an hour?'
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MUM: 'That's none of your business. Why do you ask such a thing?' the woman said angrily.
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SON: 'I just want to know. Please tell me, how much do you make an hour?'
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MUM: 'If you must know, I make 50$ an hour..'
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SON: 'Oh,' the little boy replied, with his head down.
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SON: 'Mummy, may I please borrow 25$?'
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The mother was furious, 'If the only reason you asked that is so you can borrow some money to buy a silly toy or some other nonsense, then you march yourself straight to your room and go to bed. Think about why you are being so selfish.. I don't work hard everyday for such childish frivolities.'
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The little boy quietly went to his room and shut the door..
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The woman sat down and started to get even angrier about the little boy's questions. How dare he ask such questions only to get some money?
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After about an hour or so, the woman had calmed down , and started to think:
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Maybe there was something he really needed to buy with that 25$ and she really didn't ask for money very often.The woman went to the door of the little boy's room and opened the door...
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'Are you asleep, son?' She asked.
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'No Mummy, I'm awake,' replied the boy.
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'I've been thinking, maybe I was too hard on you earlier' said the woman. 'It's been a long day and I took out my aggravation on you. Here's the 25$ you asked for.'
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The little boy sat straight up, smiling. 'Oh, thank you Mummy!' he yelled. Then, reaching under his pillow he pulled out some crumpled up bills.
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The woman saw that the boy already had money, started to get angry again.
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The little boy slowly counted out his money, and then looked up at his mother.
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'Why do you want more money if you already have some?' the mother grumbled.
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'Because I didn't have enough, but now I do,' the little boy replied.
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'Mummy, I have 50$ now. Can I buy an hour of your time? Please come home early tomorrow. I would like to have dinner with you.'
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The mother was crushed. She put his arms around her little son, and she begged for his forgiveness.
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It's just a short reminder to all of you working so hard in life. We should not let time slip through our fingers without having spent some time with those who really matter to us, those close to our hearts. Do remember to share that 50$ worth of your time with someone you love.
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If we die tomorrow, the company that we are working for could easily replace us in a matter of hours. But the family & friends we leave behind will feel the loss for the rest of their lives.
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I wish you to find lots of time and enjoy it with your family
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Thank you for reading

Saturday, June 6, 2009

"Be Thankful For Every Day You Have To Spend With Those You Love"

Hey there my good friends!

It's Tracy, to tell you 2 things.

Why am I telling you to be thankful? Well, because 3 days ago, my husband was involved in a severe auto accident that completely totaled my little Toyota.

He was hit head on by a drunk driver on his way to the grocery store...He's sort of a night owl and likes to go shopping late at night when there isn't heavy grocery traffic ;-)

A van pulled out in front of him and came straight for him in the wrong lane!! Then BANG! My car was hit, skidded about 20 feet from the road, and luckily there were other motorists behind him that called the police immediately.

I was taken by police escort to the hospital at around 2:35 am, which was scary seeing police at this time. That's when you KNOW something is very, very wrong. They were very professional and polite letting me know that my husband was all right, but he was injured, and that the accident wasn't his fault :-D Lovely police ;-)

The story gets even scarier though.

My husband told me the day after the accident that he was planning on taking our 10 year old daughter with him that night, but something in the back of his mind said "No, Don't".

If she would have been in that car, she would have surely been sitting in the front passenger side, and that is where a majority of the damage occurred, she would have been killed almost instantly.

Now, THAT is truly a wake up call of the highest order!!

So, be thankful that you have your loved ones around you because someone careless could take them from you in an instant.

Hug your children and tell them you love them every single day.

Give up the remote to your husband or wife. Kiss them. Hug them. Tell them you love them because you never know what tomorrow will bring. Or if there will even be one.

I hope that you are happy and healthy, wherever you are in the World
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All My Best,

Tracy Yates
B2E Ezine Owner
Columbus

Monday, March 23, 2009

Nothing is impossible

When someone tells you that you can't do something...


Look around...


Consider all options...
Then GO for it!


Use all the things God gave you!


Be creative!


In the end, you will succeed and prove them wrong!

Always remember

"Nothing is impossible, if your heart is willing"
Get rid of the word impossible from your dictionary and you will succeed.

Saturday, February 28, 2009

Can I Borrow £10?

A man came home from work late, tired and irritated, to find his 5-year old son waiting for him at the door.
SON: ' Daddy, may I ask you a question? '
DAD: ' Yeah sure, what it is? ' replied the man.
SON: ' Daddy, how much do you make an hour? '
DAD: ' That ' s none of your business. Why do you ask such a thing? ' the man said angrily.
SON: ' I just want to know. Please tell me, how much do you make an hour? '
DAD: ' If you must know, I make £25 an hour. '
SON: ' Oh, ' the little boy replied, with his head down.
SON: ' Daddy, may I please borrow £10? '
The father was furious, '
If the only reason you asked that is so you can borrow some money to buy a silly toy or some other nonsense, then you march yourself straight to your room and go to bed. Think about why you are being so selfish. I don ' t work hard everyday for such childish frivolities. '
The little boy quietly went to his room and shut the door. The man sat down and started to get even angrier about the little boy ' s questions. How dare he ask such questions only to get some money?
After about an hour or so, the man had calmed down , and started to think: Maybe there was something he really needed to buy with that £10.00 and he really didn ' t ask for money very often The man went to the door of the little boy ' s room and opened the door. ' Are you asleep, son? '
He asked. ' No daddy, I ' m awake, ' replied the boy. ' I ' ve been thinking, maybe I was too hard on you earlier ' said the man. ' It ' s been a long day and I took out my aggravation on you. Here ' s the £10.00 you asked for. ' The little boy sat straight up, smiling. ' Oh, thank you daddy! ' he yelled.
Then, reaching under his pillow he pulled out some crumpled up notes. The man saw that the boy already had money, started to get angry again. The little boy slowly counted out his money, and then looked up at his father. ' Why do you want more money if you already have some? ' the father grumbled. ' Because I didn ' t have enough, but now I do, ' the little boy replied. ' Daddy, I have £25 now. Can I buy an hour of your time? Please come home early tomorrow. I would like to have dinner with you. ' The father was crushed. He put his arms around his little son, and he begged for his forgiveness.

It ' s just a short reminder to all of you working so hard in life. We should not let time slip through our fingers without having spent some time with those who really matter to us, those close to our hearts. Do remember to share that £25 worth of your time with someone you love. If we die tomorrow, the company that we are working for could easily replace us in a matter of hours. But the family & friends we leave behind will feel the loss for the rest of their lives.

Saturday, February 21, 2009

Father & Son

An 80 year old man was sitting on the sofa in his house along with his45 Years old highly educated son. Suddenly a crow perched on their window.

The Father asked his Son, "What is this?"
The Son replied "It is a crow".
After a few minutes, the Father asked his Son the 2nd time, "What is this?"
The Son said "Father, I have just now told you "It's a crow".

After a little while, the old Father again asked his Son the 3rd time,"What is this?" At this time some expression of irritation was felt in the Son's tone when he said to his Father with a rebuff. "It's a crow, a crow".

A little after, the Father again asked his Son t he 4th time, "What is this?"

This time the Son shouted at his Father, "Why do you keep asking me the same question again and again, although I have told you so many times'ITIS A CROW'. Are you not able to understand this?"A little later the Father went to his room and came back with an old tattered diary, which he had maintained since his Son was born. On opening a page, he asked his Son to read that page. When the son read it, the following words were written in the diary:- "Today my little son aged three was sitting with me on the sofa, when a crow was sitting on the window. My Son asked me 23 times what it was, and I replied to him all 23 times that it was a Crow. I hugged him lovingly each time h e asked me the same question again and again for 23 times. I did not at all feel irritated I rather felt affection for my innocent child".

While the little child asked him 23 times "What is this", the Father had felt no irritation in replying to the same question all 23 times and when today the Father asked his Son the same question just 4 times, the Son felt irritated and annoyed.

So..If your parents attain old age, do not repulse them or look at them as a burden, but speak to them a gracious word, be cool, obedient, humble and kind to them. Be considerate to your parents. From today say this aloud "I want to see my parents happy forever. They have cared for me even since I was a little child. They have always showered their selfless love on me.They crossed all mountains and valleys without seeing the storm and heat to make me a person presentable in the society today".Say a prayer to God, "I will serve my old parents in the BEST way. I will say all good and kind words to my dear parents, no matter how they behave.

Tuesday, February 17, 2009

A story tells that two friends
Were walking through the desert
During some point of the
Journey they had an
Argument,
and one friend
Slapped the other one In the face.
The one who got slapped was hurt,


but without saying anything,
wrote in the sand:


TODAY MY BEST FRIEND SLAPPED ME IN THE FACE .


They kept on walking until they found an oasis,
where they decided to take a bath.
The one who had been slapped got stuck in the mire and started drowning,
but the friend saved him.
After he recovered from the near drowning,
he wrote on a stone:


TODAY MY BEST FRIEND SAVED MY LIFE.


The friend who
had slapped and saved his best friend asked him,
"After I hurt you, you wrote in the sand and now, you write on a stone, why?"
The other friend replied
"When someone hurts us we should write it down in sand
where winds of forgiveness can erase it away.
But, when someone does something good for us,
we must engrave it in stone where no wind can ever erase it.


" LEARN TO WRITE YOUR HURTS IN THE SAND
AND
TO CARVE YOUR BENEFITS IN STONE!!!


They say it takes a minute to find a special person,
an hour to appreciate them,
a day to love them,


but then an entire life to forget them.

Monday, September 15, 2008

Giving the gift of life helps you to live longer and healthier

You could be the first person to give someone a second chance at life. Blood has been called the river of life because it carries oxygen and nutrients throughout our body. Blood is essential to life, a precious gift that we can share as a volunteer donor. Your blood will help save someone's life and there is no greater way to give of ourselves than to donate blood. Blood isn't everyone's favorite topic. In fact, I would like to share my own experience about a simple act that can literally saves lives.

Did you know that donating blood helps us to live longer and healthier? Scientists found striking evidence that people with more iron in their bodies are at greater risk of heart attacks and the men who donate blood are far less likely to have a heart attack than those who are not blood donors. I was extremely surprised myself to find such a strong relationship between blood donation and protection against heart disease. Giving blood to help others may be prolonging our own lives.

People have many questions about donation. Perhaps you want to be a donor but you're worried about what this involves. Well, I was nervous at my first time, but the medical staff answered all my questions. Donating blood is not painful and is completely safe for us. A small percentage of first time donors may psychologically feel a little dizzy but only for a few minutes. I assure you the procedure is simple, my first blood donation was a happy experience and a feeling of joy and satisfaction. It made me a regular blood donor. Only 350 to 450 ml blood is taken which gets replaced in our body within 24 hours, it is done by skilled specially trained technicians and the whole procedure take just 10 to 15 minutes. They check my blood pressure, pulse rate, body temperature and iron levels. We can do it up to three times a year. In fact there are many people who have donated more than 100 times in their life time.

Blood is indeed something special for us, It can't be manufactured, something money can't buy, only something one person can give to another. It isn't every day you can do something to save someone's life. But it can be a common experience, if you give blood to survive illness or injury. Every day, thousands of people need donations to live. You may give a newborn, a child, a mother, a father, a brother, or a sister another chance at life. In fact, you may help save up to three lives with just one donation.

If you're like most people, you have a precious gift that you can keep on giving. Since you can spare it, why not share it…regularly. Your body doesn't mind one way or the other. If you donate, the order goes out to replace what was taken. I would encourage you to encourage your family and friends. After all, you will never know when you or someone you love could use it.

Let’s make a difference in our community by helping others, do something amazing, donate blood and save a life.

I wish you to live longer and healthier

Thank you very much for your precious time and reading.

Sunday, September 7, 2008

The sun has gone down?




The sun has begun to go down.
The street is suddenly all alive with the air of breaking fast.
It was just another evening of Ramadhan.
Children carrying ‘kanji’ buckets were coming from the mosque.
The aroma of finely fried cutlets and patties start teasing my taste buds.
I looked at the clock in the front hall.
Still almost one hour before the calling of azan for Mahrib.
‘patties…. rolls’
A weak but energetic voice was heard.
There stood two little boys , each carrying a box on their head.
They were so thin and small in size.I saw a whole world of innocence in their large eyes.
My mother started to count the patties needed for the evening.
They start to scratch the heads.My mother asked them why they were doing so.
‘Head is burning’one boy replied.The hot shorteats must be just taken out from the sizzling oil in the vok.
I gazed at their young faces…
‘What is your name, thambi ’
I am Muhammed….
This is ahmed’ the older boy pointed his finger to the smaller one.
‘Are you schooling..I was curious.
Muhammed nodded his head.He is in grade 5 and his brother is in grade 3.
I learnt later from my mother that the boys were from the outskirt ofMawanela.Their father is a blind man and their mother had passed away.The boys’ Aunt is taking care of them and she is the one who make patties. ]
Just think a minute! Don't these kids deserve a chance to live like other kids with all the good things in life?
Just think about the amount of burden in their shoulder.
The long uncertain road spread infront of them…
Today when you sit on your dinning table just look around the food stuff…the varieties
Just open your wardrobe and see how many rich suits you own.
Imagine how much you spend for a week on Cosmetics …to beautify yourself.
Think for a second about the poor and orphan children around you.
If you have a heart….
your life will never going to be the same again.

Tuesday, July 22, 2008

A Successful Relationship . . .

A boy was born to a couple after eleven years of marriage. They were a loving couple and the boy was the apple of their eyes. When the boy was around two years old, one morning the husband saw a medicine bottle open. He was late for work so he asked his wife to cap the bottle and keep it in the cupboard. His wife, preoccupied in the kitchen totally forgot the matter. The boy saw the bottle and playfully went to the bottle and fascinated by its color, drank it all. It happened to be a poisonous medicine meant for adults in small dosages. When the child collapsed the mother hurried him to the hospital, where he died. The mother was stunned. She was terrified how to face her husband. When the distraught father came to the hospital and saw the dead child, he looked at his wife and uttered just four words..

QUESTIONS:

1. What were the four words?

2. What is the implication of this story?

read..
ANSWER:

The husband just said "I Love You Darling" The husband's totally unexpected reaction is proactive behavior. The child is dead. He can never be brought back to life. There is no point in findingfault with the mother. Besides, if only he had taken time to keep the bottle away, this would not happen.

No one to be blamed. She had lost her only child. What she needed at that moment was consolation and sympathy from the husband. That is what he gave her. If everyone can look at life with this kind of perspective, there would be much fewer problems in the world. Take off all your envies, jealousies, unforgiving attitude, selfishness, and fears. And you will find things are actually not as difficult as you think.

"A successful relationship requires falling in love many times with the same person . . . "

Sunday, July 6, 2008

The Nice One....

A story tells that two friends were walking through the desert During some point of the Journey they had an Argument, and one friend Slapped the other one In the face.

The one who got slapped was hurt, but without saying anything, wrote in the sand:
''TODAY MY BEST FRIEND SLAPPED ME IN THE FACE"
They kept on walking until they found an oasis, where they decided to take a bath.
The one who had been slapped got stuck in the mire and started drowning, but the friend saved him. After he recovered from the near drowning, he wrote on a stone:
"TODAY MY BEST FRIEND SAVED MY LIFE"

The friend who had slapped and saved his best friend asked him, "After I hurt you, you wrote in the sand and now, you write on a stone, why?"

The other friend replied "When someone hurts us we should write it down in sand where winds of forgiveness can erase it away. But, when someone does something good for us, we must engrave it in stone where no wind can ever erase it."
LEARN TO WRITE YOUR HURTS IN THE SAND AND TO CARVE YOUR BENEFITS IN STONE.
They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them, but then an entire life to forget them.

Do not value the THINGS you have in your life. But value WHO you have in your life! Life's short. If you don't look around once in a while ,you might miss it.

Thursday, April 10, 2008

Each of us is special


"While walking in a toy store, the other day
I felt a box of crayons has lots of things to say...
"I don't like red" said yellow, and green said "nor do I"
And no one here likes orange, but no one knows just why…
Still I bought that box of crayons and took it home with me,
And drew with all the colors, so that all crayons could see…
Each of us is special and everyone's unique…
But it's only when we get together that the picture is complete."

Tuesday, April 8, 2008

"Never let yesterday's disappointments overshadow tomorrow's dreams"


A well-known speaker started off his seminar by holding up a 500 rupee note. In the room of 200, he asked, "Who would like to ave this 500 rupee note?"
Hands started going up. He said, "I am going to give this 500 rupee note to one of you but first let me do this."
He proceeded to crumple the rupee note up. He then asked, "Who still wants it?" Still the hands were up in the air.

"Well," he replied, "What if I do this?"

And he dropped it on the ground and started to grind it into the floor
withhis shoe.

He picked it up, now all crumpled and dirty. "Now who still wants it?"

Still the hands went into the air.

"My friends, you have all learned a very valuable lesson.

No matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did not decrease in value.

It was still worth Rs 500.

Many times in our lives, we are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way. We feel as though we are worthless. But no matter what has happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value.

You are special - Don't ever forget it!

"Never let yesterday's disappointments overshadow tomorrow's dreams"

Monday, April 7, 2008

"LOVE YOUR JOB BUT NEVER FALL IN LOVE WITH YOUR COMPANY

This is interesting. A MUST READ for people doing work late hours out there. An interesting speech delivered by a CEO of a premier IT company of India during an employee session with another IT company in India. He is incidentally, one of the top 50 Influential people of Asia according the latest Asiaweek publication and also the new IT Advisor to the Thailand Prime Minister.


Extract of Mr. Narayana Murthy's Speech during Mentor Session:
LOVE YOUR JOB, BUT NEVER FALL IN LOVE WITH YOUR COMPANY BCOZ U NEVER KNOW WHEN COMPANY STOPS LOVING YOU - Narayana Murthy

I know people who work 12 hours a day, six days a week, or more. Some people do so because of a work emergency where the long hours are only temporary. Other people I know have put in these hours for years. I don't know if they are working all these hours, but I do know they are in the office this long. Others put in long office hours because they are addicted to the workplace. Whatever the reason for putting in overtime, working long hours over the long term is harmful to the person and to the organization.

There are things managers can do to change this for everyone's benefit. Being in the office long hours, over long periods of time, makes way for potential errors. My colleagues who are in the office long hours frequently make mistakes caused by fatigue. Correcting these mistakes requires their time as well as the time and energy of others. I have seen people work Tuesday through Friday to correct mistakes made after 5 PM on Monday.

Another problem is that people who are in the office long hours are not pleasant company. They often complain about other people (who aren't working as hard); they are irritable, or cranky, or even angry. Other people avoid them. Such behavior poses problems, where work goes much better when people work together instead of avoiding one another. As Managers, there are things we can do to help people leave the office.

First and foremost is to set the example and go home ourselves. I work with a manager who chides people for working long hours. His words quickly lose their meaning when he sends these chiding group e-mails with a time-stamp of 2 AM, Sunday. Second is to encourage people to put some balance in their lives.

For instance, here is a guideline I find helpful:
1) Wake up, eat a good breakfast, and go to work.
2) Work hard and smart for eight or nine hours.
3) Go home.
4) Read the books/comics, watch a funny movie, dig in the dirt, play with your kids, etc.
5) Eat well and sleep well.

This is called recreating. Doing steps 1, 3, 4, and 5 enable step 2.

Working regular hours and recreating daily are simple concepts. They are hard for some of us because that requires 'personal change'. They are possible since we all have the power to choose to do them.
In considering the issue of overtime, I am reminded of my oldest son. When he was a toddler, if people were visiting the apartment, he would not fall asleep no matter how long the visit, and no matter what time of day it was. He would fight off sleep until the visitors left. It was as if he was afraid that he would miss something. Once our visitors' left, he would go to sleep. By this time, however, he was over tired and would scream through half the night with nightmares. He, my wife, and I, all paid the price for his fear of missing out.

Perhaps some people put in such long hours because they don't want to miss anything when they leave the office. The trouble with this is that events will never stop happening. That is life !! Things happen 24 hours a day.

Allowing for little rest is not ultimately practical. So, take a nap.
Things will happen while you're asleep, but you will have the energy to catch up when you wake.
Hence "LOVE YOUR JOB BUT NEVER FALL IN LOVE WITH YOUR COMPANY".
Have a great day ahead !!!

 
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